Normal BDSM relationships are built on the basis of mutual respect and trust and, of course, their main goal is to enjoy all parties to the process equally. To do this, you need to take into account all the criteria of preferences and safety for all participants so that "no animal is harmed" either morally or physically!
If you find a new partner, for example on BDSM dating sites, this article might be very useful. In order for your partner to receive due satisfaction from your actions, and vice versa, you need systematic practice, thematic experience, the manifestation of maximum attention to the desires and capabilities of the partner. But what if you decide on the first session with a new partner or want to deepen and develop relationships, try new practices with an existing one? Of course, trust each other and in advance, in a calm, relaxed atmosphere, outline your secret fantasies and desires as fully as possible, focusing on what you like, what you are willing to endure if your partner wants it, but you do not, and what is completely unacceptable for you. Otherwise, instead of the expected maximum of pleasure, you can get maximum frustration, which can discourage you from further experiments, as well as cause mental and even physical trauma.
Remember and always follow the rule when you enter into a BDSM relationship with a new partner or develop them in some direction with a person you already know. IT IS VERY IMPORTANT TO DISCUSS THE DETAILS OF THE UPCOMING THEME SESSION. It is even better and more correct to take a pen and a piece of paper, sit down and reflect on your desires and physical capabilities, write them down in the form of a list, a questionnaire or a kind of contract (list of conditions) or as a script for a BDSM session, and then show it to your friend / girlfriend (slave / slave) and discuss it over a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. At the same time, remove something, add something, adjust something, listening to the wishes of your partner.
Are you confused by the abundance of your desires? Is it difficult for you to formulate them? Not sure what you want or what you can and should want? We will help you! Check out the so-called "Slave Profile" (or "Slave Profile"), which has become widely known and spread in the Russian BDSM community.
In the thematic world, there are two samples of such documents - the so-called BDSM questionnaires for a slave (or slave) and BDSM contracts (agreements). In a standard topical questionnaire, you offer a list of what you want to do with your submissive, and he, answering the questionnaire, makes it clear what is acceptable for him and what is not. No one forbids the slave to voice his desires, which were not included in the questionnaire drawn up by the Master. Actually, you can even question the Lord, this is not entirely tactful from a thematic point of view, but quite acceptable when it comes to the beginning of a relationship and mutual achievement of conditions leading to the creation of an atmosphere of comfort and trust.
If we take a BDSM contract, then this is a more complex and detailed document, which, as it were, transfers the control rights of the submissive to his Master, at the same time limiting him in some reasonable framework. It does not seem to us that such a document should be invented and drawn up during BDSM sessions. Usually it is signed by those people who are quite serious and deeply passionate about the topic, and for them it is broader than session role-playing games. BDSM agreement is widespread in lifestyle relationships, when the thematic life of the participants follows the 24/7 formula - i.e. constantly and applies to all aspects of their life together. Of course, the document has no legal force, since its very essence contradicts the current civil legislation on the rights and freedoms of the individual. Rather, it plays the role of, on the one hand, a kind of document, the provisions of which should be adhered to and which sets the framework and rules for serious thematic relations, and on the other hand, it is an additional attribute, the aura of relations, complementing the psychological dependence of the slave on the Master.
Variants of BDSM questionnaires Variants of BDSM contracts and agreements
It should be noted that these are quite general, albeit well-developed blanks. It is not necessary to fill out all the points of the questionnaire or follow all the provisions of the contract. Take a look and decide for yourself which items you need to leave, and which ones to remove or supplement documents, based on your wishes. The most logical thing - first the master writes his fantasies and desires, then submits his own - then the questionnaire is printed in duplicate and filled in. All controversial points are negotiated and clarified after the negotiations.
So, the slave's profile
Full name
1.Sexual orientation (strictly hetero, hetero, bi, strictly homo): ____
2. BDSM orientation (top, bottom, switch): _____
In the EXPERIENCE column, the REAL experience is written, that is, what happened in reality with an assessment of how the incident was perceived:
On a 5-point scale 5 - excellent 4 - in some places it was good 3 - experienced nothing 2 - mostly unpleasant, but you can endure without problems 1 - very unpleasant as a last resort 0 - never again and never
If you have no experience on the issue, you do not need to write anything.
In the FANTASY column, you write your attitude to the proposed, as you imagine it in your fantasy and imagination:
On a 5-point scale
5 - very exciting
4 - attractive
3 - indifference
2 - rather unpleasant, but you can probably be patient
1 - definitely unpleasant, I don't even want to think
0 - I don't know what it is, I never thought about it
IMPACT EXPERIENCE FANTASY
- Anal plugs (vibrators, dildos)
- Anal sex
- Hitting the heels
- Bondage
- Underwear bondage in public places
- Shaving, epilation of genital hair
- Vaginal sex
- Inserting a finger into the cervix
- Verbal (verbal) abuse
- Vibrators, underwear imitators wearing in public places
- Temporary transfer to another Master
- Temporary change of appearance (hairstyle, repainting, hair cutting)
- Doing housework
- Stretching the arms and legs
- Harem (serving the Master with other slaves)
- Group sex
- Locking in cages
- Locking in closets, bathrooms
- Suction
- Horse game (cart ride or horseback riding)
- Play the role of any animal
- Play rape
- Game rape gang
- Outdoor play scenes (if appropriate)
- Injections
- Using various objects in the game (bottles, hairbrush handles, candles, vegetables, etc.)
- Using various objects in the game (bottles, hairbrush handles, candles, vegetables, etc.) vaginally
- Using a gag
- Using ice inside (anus)
- Using ice externally (nipples, genitals)
- Using spacers and stretchers for arms and legs
- Using a slave's mouth instead of an ashtray for cigarette butts
- Using a slave mouth instead of an ashtray
- Using the hands of a slave instead of an ashtray
- Dripping wax on the chest, abdomen, genitals, back and buttocks
- Branding (with hot iron)
- Enema
- Control over the life of a slave, external service contacts
- Control by the Master over the life of a slave, complete
- Master's control over the life of a slave, external household contacts
- Master control over slave life, vanilla external contacts
- Master's control over the life of a slave, external contacts Thematic
- Copro (various options)
- Mouth to mouth feeding
- Hand feeding
- Mouth to mouth smoking
- Caressing the Master's genitals with the hands
- Lick the master's anus
- Lick and kiss the feet of the Master
- Lick and kiss the Boss's shoes
- Wearing corsets, graces, suspenders
- Wearing handcuffs and leg shackles
- Wearing whore clothes (private)
- Wearing whore clothes (in public)
- Wearing slave jewelry
- Anonymization is temporary
- Passport depersonalization (change of name at the request of the owner)
- Complete depersonalization
- Pouring chocolate
- Stunned state (sleeping pills, alcohol)
- Simultaneous penetration into the mouth and anus
- Burning by a lighter candle
- Oral sex for the Master
- Collars (private wearing)
- Collars (public wearing)
- Dressing in underwear or clothing of the opposite sex
- Spitting
- Piercing
- Mouth to mouth drinking
- Blindfolds
- Hanging upside down
- Horizontal suspension
- Hanging weights from the nipples and genitals
- Knife cuts
- Spanking weak (until redness)
- Average flogging (up to bruising)
- Spanking strong (up to scars)
- Simulation whipping (light spanking)
- Back whipping
- Butt whipping
- Spanking feet
- Hand whipping
- Breast flogging
- Spanking genitals
- Slaps
- Chastity belt (worn while playing)
- Chastity belt (wearing on a permanent basis)
- Long-term stay in the Master's house (more than a week)
- Stay in the Master's house, up to a week
- The Master's stay in your house
- Compulsion to homosexuality
- Forced to private masturbation
- Forced to public masturbation
- Penetration of the hand into the anus (fisting)
- Clothespins for body, nipples and genitals
- Ripping clothes
- Money management (financial control)
- Spacers
- Sex without preparation
- Outdoor sex (in a suitable setting)
- Sexual abstinence
- Sexual abstinence by order of the Master
- Seduction of women
- Seduction of men
- Competition with other slaves (slaves)
- Hair pulling
- Trampling with feet strong